Do you know what is common between dark chocolate, surprises, gambling, winning in bingo, and meeting people who agree with us? Each of these experiences causes a surge in dopamine in our brain’s reward network. That surge in dopamine feels pleasing to us.
Another activity that gets our reward system going is saying the word “I.” I do this, I do that, this is how I feel, I like this, I don’t like that, and so on. When we talk about ourselves, our reward network activates, and we feel happy.
No wonder 40% of the speech and 80% of the social media content is people talking about themselves.
When you choose to mindfully listen to others’ concerns, even if you aren’t able to solve their concerns, you are helping them. This is because when they inform you, their brain’s pleasure center activates. In research study, people even give up a monetary gain in favor of the joy of sharing information.
A simple way to connect with others and make them happy is to sit back, relax, and enjoy them speak – about themselves. Try this particularly with folks who may have missed an engaged sympathetic ear for a long time.
Listening to others with complete presence is such a simple way of spreading happiness. No wonder, we have two ears and one mouth!